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“Love is patient; love is kind
 and envies no one.

Love is never boastful, nor conceited, nor rude; 
never selfish, not quick to take offense.

There is nothing love cannot face;
 there is no limit to its faith, 
its hope, and endurance.

In a word, there are three things 
that last forever: faith, hope, and love,
but the greatest of them all is love.”

The Bible.

I m quiet an open person. How open are you? There are people who are very open and few who are never open. People who are not very open are like a door, which is all the time locked for many reasons like they don’t trust others, they don’t want to share, they have a password-protect for everything.

When we are not open, It hinders our relationship and we also hesitate to start new relationships. To start being open with other is not going to come easy. We have to work on it every time.
The door never remains wide open or shut tight. We all have moments in our lives where we tend to open up to people who are very close. Off course it’s not necessary for us to reveal every little detail of our life to every single person we meet. Same time keeping the door completely closed is not healthy too.

Being more open is like growing. To grow we need to read, learn and know about many things. The more we know, we will be able to relate someone at some level and we can make more connections. We will have some common things to share and to move further. So knowledge can help us to feel more open.
Another important fact is our Body language. Some people keep their arms folded. legs crossed and their body will be angled away from the people they are talking to, they don’t give eye contact they just look around as they are lost in their thoughts or they are thinking what they have to say next or thinking something entirely different. This makes us to focus on ourselves and stops from connecting with other people. And some people don’t smile as often they should. Smiling and having good Body language makes us appear much more open.

Sometimes we are afraid to get close or get open with people, we are scared that they will judge or dislike the unusual topics that we speak. These fears will most of the time hold us back from expressing or being open. Without sharing we can never be truly open. So it’s good to ignore the fear about what people will think or say. You never know, how well people can accept you and would be surprised to know how much we have in common with others.

When we communicate with others, we need to be more specific. When someone ask us“How was your day?” We respond, “Good. Yours?” I think we need to be more open-up and give some more details. When we open to them, they feel more connected to us and they try to share and feel more comfortable to open up.
Being open with other will take time. When we begin to open up we will have lot of questions in our mind. Like what to say, how to say. It’s not easy for every one.

1)There can be no happiness if the things we believe in are different from the things we do. (Freya Stark)

2) Happiness cannot come from without. It must come from within. It is not what we see and touch or that that which others do for us which makes us happy; it is that which we think and feel and do, first for the other fellow and then for ourselves. (Helen Keller)


3)Happiness is like a kiss. You must share it to enjoy it. (Bernard Meltzer)


4) Remember, happiness doesn't depend on who you are or what you have; it depends solely on what you think. (Dale Carnegie)

5) Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to a better understanding of ourselves. (Carl Jung)

6) No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. (Eleanor Roosevelt)


7) The question is not what you look at, but what you see. (Henry David Thoreau)

8) What you think, you create. What you feel, you attract. What you imagine, you become. (Adele Basheer)

9) Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you'll start seeing positive results. (William Nelson)


10) You can destroy your now by worrying about your tomorrow. (Janis Joplin)

11) There is only one person that can make you happy and that person is you. (David Burns)

12) Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing you will be successful. (Albert Schweitzer)

13) Most people ask for happiness on condition. Happiness can only be felt if you don't set any condition. (Arthur Rubinstein)

14) Happy people are grateful. Ungrateful people cannot be happy. We tend to think that being unhappy leads people to complain, but it is complaining that leads people to becoming unhappy. (Dennis Prager)

15) When I was in grade school, they told me to write down what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down "happy." They told me I didn't understand the assignment; I told them they didn't understand life. (Unknown)

16) Being happy doesn't mean you're perfect. It just means you've decided to look beyond the imperfections. (K.B. Indiana)

17)Everything matters. Nothing's important. (Frederick Nietzsche)

18)Life is now. There was never a time when your life was not now, nor will there ever be. (Echkart Tolle)

Laziness, The tendency to rest, to do nothing. Basically it results from a dislike of anything that we are supposed to do. It is a very relaxing and easy activity.

When do we feel Lazy?
Is it when we are discouraged bcoz all that we tried has failed and we don’t need to bother anymore?
Is it when we are really tired or depressed?
Is it, when we are frustrated that we are still left with plenty of things to do? Or
Is it, that we are scared to be a Loser?

Being Lazy is a good excuse to avoid things that we ‘should’ be doing.
This is the time to do the best that we need to do at this period of our life.
Every one loves to ‘be free’. But is it the right time?

Sometimes we spend most of the day sleeping just bcoz we are lazy to wake up. Or otherwise sitting at home whole day and watching TV .We just postpone or ignore dealing with ourselves. And towards the end of the day if we look back we can find how we wasted the entire day and accomplished nothing.
Yes, Sleeping is a great luxury, when there is no guilt.

It’s nice to be lazy when there is no much of responsibility or nothing much to be done.
To take time off and make a choice about what to do with our time. It seems good to be lazy one in a while, from our busy lives and go on a vacation, relax, enjoy and come back so refreshed.

Recently one of my friends put up his status message as “The Buck Stops Here” Which means “Responsibility is not passed-on beyond this point”
Isn’t impressive? He sets a good example to be responsible and focussed in life.

Laziness is just a waste of Time & Talent. We need to realize that by being lazy always, we are missing out so much what the world offers. Let’s spread the beauty of living life being active and set a positive influence to others.

In my opinion ‘Thank You’ and ‘Sorry’ are the two most beautiful words in this world to express our Gratitude and Guilty.

Thank You seems like a simple word but you can’t imagine how much it can matter. It is not just a word to say when we are the recipient of some material gift. It is something that we should feel from our heart.
It’s about what we experience when we say Thanks and receive Thanks.

When we say Thanks to the person from whom we had a great help, the thanks makes u feel happy as well as the person who is receiving it.
When people thank us, we’ll definitely have the contentment that, some one is happy today because of me. Some one is smiling because of me.

Most of us believe that, we don’t need to say Thanks to our parents or friends. The common thing what we hear always, “There is no room for thank you and sorry in Friendship”
I don’t agree with this. I believe when we show gratitude by telling Thanks, no matter to your parents or friends, we are encouraging them and making them feel happy & proud.

Sorry is the word through which we can beg pardon, and express our guilt. And it is always good to realize our mistake and be sorry for it.
When we are sorry there are more chances of being forgiven and patch up the relationship. It is never too late to say I m sorry.

I realize that some people do not say ‘Thank you’ ‘Sorry’ ‘Please’ .It’s is not that they do not appreciate it but simply do not think it is necessary



Some times people go to cash counters or booking counters, get their work done and just walk away. Why?
Why can’t they say Thank you? Why cant they ask them, How are you doing today?
It costs nothing to be respectful or to say a genuine Thank you.

I always Thank people who comments on my blog. It is a fashioned courtesy more than a genuine gratitude or appreciation. But I feel so good when I see their Comments. How else to show my Happiness.

We should always have fun while we express Thanks. Saying Thank you and being polite might be so simple, but they do have a huge impact on others and on the world.

The World is poorer today, feels like we lost a familiar.
The pop world wouldn’t be the same if he was not brought in to it.
In past few weeks, his childhood story has gained a revival of interest
People are more interested to know about the man behind the cosmetic mask.

I would like to share the lyrics of his song ‘Childhood’

Before you judge me, try hard to love me,
Look within your heart then ask,
Have you seen my Childhood?
People say I’m strange that way
‘Cause I love such elementary things,
It’s been my fate to compensate,
For the Childhood I’ve never known…

This is so touching.
He suffered a lot in this life. I wish he is safe in the next world
We all will miss him, he will live in our hearts for ever.
May his soul Rest in peace.

The one emotion that we all are struggling to live with is Fear.
Fear invites us in different ways. Fear is the major reason for all our negative feelings, thoughts, actions so on.

We turn on the TV and sometimes watch some crime stories and some terror news. What do we experience in us is nothing but Fear. Terrorism is just based on promoting fear all over. More than the awareness of terrorism what prevails everywhere is Fear.

Fear is the emotion that stops us from doing many things. We can’t even put our effort to try whether it is possible to meet our goals and objectives. It’s the force that pulls us back from anything and everything.

One more face of fear makes us feel that we are all alone in the world .We all have the Fear of Loosing things. We never want to loose or harm the things we love the most. This fear I guess each one of us possess. Some times we do wrong things out of fear of loosing something that is very close to our heart. This fear has several impacts on us.

One main emotion that is rooted in Fear is ANGER. There are many other emotions like jealousy, hatred, envy, arrogance which are also rooted in Fear.

In today’s world most of us are so self absorbed that we don’t bother nor care for the people around. We are always focused on making our life better by increasing the digits in our salary, shifting on to new houses, buying the best car, solving problems with family with friends and many more. May be that’s the reason we feel justified to be stuck in our misery and shower it on other people in the form of anger.

When I am in some great pain and misery, most of the time I am rude to some people.
I am not proud of it but I am in so much pain. Here rudeness may be something like a cry for help. But there is no use out of it, coz in turn it gives us more pain and more misery.
The sad part is, the ruder I was the more pain I received.

I think this rudeness is just the change that happens in our minds due to fear and we are not aware of what exactly we are doing. What we should do or what we should have done.

All emotions are so interconnected fear, anger, rudeness, arrogance. They make us handicapped.Fear is at the root of it all.
Is our fear justified, or not?